Every relationship has its ups and downs. Even the strongest couples face challenges with communication, conflict, or simply feeling disconnected. That’s where couples therapy can make a difference—providing a safe space to work through struggles, rebuild trust, and grow closer together. One of the most well-researched and effective approaches is Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Our very own Danielle Jenkins is level 1 training certified in Gottman Therapy.

What Is Gottman Therapy?

Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this method is grounded in decades of research on what makes relationships thrive—or fall apart. Rather than guessing what works, the Gottmans studied thousands of couples over 40+ years to uncover the key habits of healthy, lasting relationships.

The Gottman Method focuses on strengthening three main areas:

• Friendship: Deepening the bond, respect, and appreciation partners have for one another.

• Conflict Management: Learning how to handle disagreements in healthy, constructive ways instead of falling into cycles of criticism, defensiveness, or stonewalling.

• Shared Meaning: Building a life together that feels purposeful, with shared goals, values, and rituals of connection.

Couples also learn to identify and change negative patterns—the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling)—which are strong predictors of relationship distress.

What makes Gottman therapy unique is its balance of practical tools and emotional connection. Couples don’t just talk about their issues; they practice new ways of communicating, resolving conflict, and expressing affection. It’s about creating lasting habits that make love stronger, even long after therapy ends.

Couples therapy isn’t about finding out “who’s right” or “who’s wrong.” It’s about rediscovering each other and learning how to move forward together. The Gottman Method gives couples the roadmap—and the tools—to build a relationship that not only lasts, but thrives.