Bullying-it's not just for kids!

We often think of bullying as something confined to the schoolyard—name-calling, exclusion, or intimidation that fades with graduation caps and growing up. But the reality is, bullying doesn’t always stop when we become adults. In fact, it can take on new, insidious forms that affect our careers, relationships, and self-worth. Adult bullying is real—and it’s time we talk about it.

What Does Adult Bullying Look Like?

Unlike childhood bullying of stealing lunch money or pushing on the playground- adult bullying often wears a more subtle mask. It can manifest in workplaces, social groups, families, or even online. Common forms include:

• Verbal abuse: Sarcasm, humiliation, gaslighting, or demeaning comments.

• Social manipulation: Exclusion, gossip, or sabotage within social or professional circles.

• Professional sabotage: Undermining someone’s work, taking credit for their efforts, or intentionally withholding information.

• Cyberbullying: Harassment through social media, texts, or emails.

Adult bullies often rely on power dynamics—whether they’re a boss, coworker, or someone in a leadership position in a social group. But bullying can also come from peers, friends, or even family members.

Why It Hurts More Than We Expect

We’re often told to “just ignore it” or “be the bigger person.” But bullying in adulthood cuts deep. As adults, we expect a level of maturity, professionalism, and respect from those around us. When we’re met with cruelty, it can shake our confidence and self-identity—especially when others don’t acknowledge it or worse, dismiss it.

Unlike childhood bullying, there’s less social framework for addressing it. There are no school counselors monitoring lunch tables or teachers stepping in. Adults are often left to navigate bullying alone, feeling ashamed, confused, or fearful of retaliation.

How to Cope and Heal

If you’re experiencing bullying as an adult, know this: you are not alone, and it’s not your fault. Here are some ways to protect yourself and begin the healing process:

1. Recognize It for What It Is

Acknowledging that you’re being bullied is the first step. Don't minimize your experience or brush it off as “just personality differences.”

2. Set Clear Boundaries

Speak up when appropriate, calmly but firmly. Let the person know their behavior is unacceptable. Sometimes bullies back off when their actions are called out—other times they escalate. Be prepared for both.

3. Document Everything

Especially in workplace settings, it’s essential to keep records of bullying behavior. Save emails, take notes with dates, and include as much detail as possible.

4. Seek Support

Talk to a therapist, HR department, trusted friends, or support groups. Isolation gives bullying more power. Connection restores perspective and builds resilience.

5. Know When to Walk Away

Sometimes, the healthiest option is to remove yourself from the toxic environment entirely—whether that’s changing jobs, ending friendships, or redefining boundaries with family.

Reclaiming Your Power

Being bullied as an adult can feel humiliating and disorienting—but it doesn't define you. Your voice, your values, and your boundaries matter. Speaking up and seeking support isn’t weakness—it’s strength. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and empowered, no matter your age.

If no one has told you this today: You are not too sensitive. You are not imagining it. And you absolutely deserve better.